Developing the resilience needed to overcome inevitable setbacks starts with seeing yourself in a new, more forgiving way.
Everyone has lessons they can teach us about success, and that’s just as true for kids as it is adults. I recently spoke to Damali Elliott, the founder and Chief Dream Builder of Petals-n-Belles, an organization based in New York City that empowers disadvantaged girls through creative workshops, real-world experiences and academic coaching. I love something Elliott said about her girls that I think is true for all of us. Resilience is something they all have even if they don’t know it.
So, how do we access that resilient part of ourselves and get rid of the learned helplessness that’s holding us back? Elliott does it by taking lessons from the girls around her, and we can too.
Petals-n-Belles hand picks girls who need to be shown there’s a better life out there waiting for them, then provides mentors, opportunities and athletic events — I love that, and I’m hoping to welcome some of them as Spartans — to help reset their expectations and succeed in life. Right now Elliott has 68 girls in various phases of the program, and they keep coming back, often to mentor the younger girls. You know you’re a success when you see a girl who once didn’t even have a place to call home coming back to visit from college.
So what can we learn from Elliott’s experience? There’s a lot of great stuff here: